A New Christian Sexual Ethic
Debates over questions of polyamory, non-monogamy, and open relationships already shows signs of getting stuck in the historical and false dichotomy of licentiousness or celibacy, which has plagued theology since the early days of the church.
I have yet to find a person to argue for the morality of “casual” sex. Some say it’s not immoral, but “it’s not hurting anyone” is a poor reason to do anything.
Questions about masturbation, birth control, premarital sex, homosexuality, nonbinary gender, and even open relationships need more than the unsupportable claim that “The Bible says it’s sinful”… because time after time the evidence does not support the mainstream conclusions. All these things can be sinful, and so can married, heterosexual, reproductive sex. The Biblical teaching about sexual sin does not draw the same lines as the dominant Christian traditions – whether conservative or liberal.
We cannot just dismiss the problem of sexual sin. It just looks completely different than what I expected when I set out to study it!
A New Christian Sexual Ethic is not an easy idea for many people to embrace. Sure, those who are already feeling the chaos of deconstruction, the rejection of normative Christianity, and the unhealthy consequences of purity culture, my book might feel like a healing breeze 🙂
I grew up with the assumption that sexual ethics meant waiting until marriage to unleash the dragon of desire. Once I wore a wedding ring, sex was approved by God without any stipulations about how I approached it or how my partner felt about it. The only thing that mattered was that I never gave … Read more
https://youtube.com/shorts/ElgKMuJJOag?feature=share Check out this video on YouTube…and send me a message if you want the full teaching. This is what we miss by translating the word porneia as fornication…and it’s the reason why I wrote a whole book on the topic.